opps- I hit enter before adding what I needed. Anyway-
I used to chat on here, and am now FINALLY divorced and I have moved away and I really thought that my life would be free of drama. Welp, nope. My EX emails/texts me constantly. This month he has contacted me over 50 times. He has called his boys once. His emails are mostly hateful rudeness mixed in with some legitimate questions/concerns about the kids. So I can't just completely block him, but at the same time I am done with the stress. I want to be able to block him but need to have a way to communicate with him if necessary. I was hoping to find someone with extra time that would be willing to be our "mediator" middle man person. He would email you with whatever question, you can decide if this is info he could find out himself online (for example-when is winter break? That is online information). This person would need to be able to take his snide comments about me, and not talk to me about it while passing on the valid info. Really at this point there should be little to no discussion. Well actually by now there should be no hateful remarks-and they shouldn't bother me-but they do-so this is my solution.
Basically a mediator-but for emails and hopefully for free-to very little cost. I'll send gift cards to say thank you! 

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oh and how this plays in with gossip and drama-you get to basically listen in to all the craziness! :) and filter it out for me! I honestly don't care if you repeat conversations or what. I am not asking my family to do it-because he is full of lies and likes to "tell" on me. And then I get to hear about it and feel like I need to defend myself and spread the truth. :) it's just dumb. so I don't care what he tells you-as long as you can say "Wow that is un-professional, and not being passed on" 

I'll do it. I remember you. And I wish I had my own. 

Sounds like he is really bitter. Since you cant get yourself to the place to block him you can just repeat some mantra to him. I hope your life gets better. or I'm sorry you feel that way.
It might take the edge off his bitter desire to destroy.

This way you are responding to him but not engaging him. 

This may sound silly because it is after the fact, but have you thought about counseling with him? Not to save your marriage. Just to figure out how to be civil with one another.
No matter what, you both are parents to the children you brought into the world and need to set a good example. I am living with -the consequences- of a failed marriage that ended in bitterness. The kids need to see a good example or they might follow in these footsteps.
Your husband needs to understand this. He is setting the kids up for failure in their future relationships if he can not show them how to treat others.

If this is not an option, I think Miss Mom gave good advice. Don't give him fuel, just pass on what info you think he needs. Maybe cut off the phone contact he has to you and get the kids a pre-paid phone (I like the Firefly for young kids) that he can call if he wants to chat with them, then keep your business with him to e-mail only so you can skim over the insults. 

I would just answer his questions and ignore the rest. Be the bigger person. Maybe he can look it up online but if you know it off the top of your head just answer it and move on. You know he has an account here. You know he has people on here who tell him things. This post is probably just adding fuel to the fire. 

Masc, makes a good point, yet it doesn't always work. Both parties have to be willing, honest and ready for therapy.....now times that by TEN when its post marriage therapy. If there was domestic violence then its even more complicated. DV is not always black and white, I have gotten to know a few military wives that seem to think neglect of children and destruction of property and non consensual sex is NOT DV........weird. 

lol
http://www.wikihow.com/Handle-a-Harassing-Ex-Spouse 

Details, hit the nail on the head to "ignore the rest". This will be SO HARD. However, it can be done. I suggest a great behavior modification therapist. 

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I tend to tell my EX...."Oh Im sorry you feel this way". 

I really feel like I have tried everything, from replying with the same sentence every time to flat out ignoring him. FOr some reason this just seems to escalate him. The only thing that gets him to stop is my going off on him and then he will stop. And I'm talking like, after 3 months I explode. But I don't want to do that. And I am trying to not let it bother me, but when I step back and look at it-it does bother me. It affects my day, and it is not fair. I really do try to not let it-but it does.
I have asked him to go to therapy with me, not to fix "us" but to help learn to co-parent and he literally replied with a "f___k you".
I know he spies on me everywhere, which is why I haven't been on here in some time-but is that really fair either? No it is not. I can't live my life making sure I don't add fuel to his fire.

MO-thanks-I'll email you! 

Sometimes getting creative helps. 

In my opinion if he's not willing to do the counseling stuff then he's more than likely not going to agree to a person in the middle.